Come Out!

“Come out from amongst them and be separate.” A scripture we hear so often and automatically think oh it’s talking about an unsaved person. But I’d like to offer a different perspective. What if the scripture is talking about me or you? What happens when that scripture is directed at people that we deem as “spiritual” or who goes to church? Let’s talk it through...

First, I’d like to say this post is not to be judgmental so please don’t think that’s why I’m here. Understand that no person is perfect and no person has “arrived’. Everyday should be a new day of pressing toward the mark. With that being said, let’s break this down.

Sometimes we have people in our lives that were there to help us through something or who were only meant to be in our life for a certain period of time and God says, “Come out amongst them and be separate.” Can we talk about how much this command, this scripture hurts at times? Can we talk about when it’s not a welcomed separation? What about when it is directed at a person who we believe is walking the straight and narrow just like us? What happens when we are Called and Chosen and God separates us from the crowd we are used to being with? How do we handle this hurt and pain? Do we obey God or do we go the way that seems right to us? If this hasn’t happened to you, don’t worry it will.

There are times where we have to forsake everything we thought we knew and follow God. As much as it hurts, we are always to remain in a place of obedience. I would be lying if I said it felt good, but I promise it is worth it. There are also times when our OWN behaviors separate us from people who “look” just like us. There are times where our own toxicities have caused a rift between us and people that were supposed to remain in our lives. It never feels good to separate from the people that you feel like "get" you, but believe me when I say it's necessary. Sometimes God will pull us away to save us from more heartache.

What’s the point of this post? This post is meant for you to be reflective and focused. This post is to cause you to look In the mirror and look at the people around you and ask “Does a separation need to take place?” Are you being hindered because of the company that you keep? Are you hindering others because of the issues that you need to work through? If you have some friends that you KNOW God has been telling you to separate from, go ahead and tell them that Monica said, "Do what God said." Take a look at your friendships and relationships that aren't adding to your life and COME OUT FROM AMONGST THEM AND BE SEPARATE. If you are the friend that needs to be separated from, do some soul work and get healed and then come back.

What are some signs a separation needs to take place?

1. God told you to. (Most obvious one, I'll say)

2. You notice you only do things that will compromise you values, beliefs, and/or integrity with said person.

3. You can't seem to find anything to talk about or that you have in common anymore.

4. There always seems to be some type of disagreement whenever you guys talk.

5. The relationship is no longer reciprocal.

6. The other person refuses to grow.

Take some time and meditate on the scripture and what God is saying concerning your friendships.